Wednesday, March 17, 2010

The right age to get and be married

Lately, everyone is talking about small girls are forced to marry and older men. Girls as young as 11 years of age. It is a pity for these girls are being forced to grow up at an early stage. Is it? Or is it, girls do mature from boys earlier, that is why girls are suppose to take on responsibilities such as marriage at an early age.

I have been getting emails on this. Telling that in sunnah and al-Quran, as long as girls has come to their puberty, they can be married. But they forgot about the reasons behind the sunnah. Our prophet got married these young girls to protect them. Some are slaves and some was widowed at the very young age. Those days, a widow needs all kind of protection that they could get even from their late husband's family. Small girls are just not protected if they are not married. So, should we compare those times and now.

The thing is, how many women even the mature ones are in greater danger after they got married. Physically or mentally or even emotionally. The responsibilities as a wife, daughter-in-law, a mother and then as a woman. Mot of them, they don't really say it out loud, the channel their frustration and sadness by blabbing the whole day, or get super jealous if their husband even look at another woman. If women say it out loud, it seems so unnatural. To be a wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law and a woman should come naturally to them . Really? No school should be teaching all these things? Really?

What can I say, it is a man's world. Man can take their time to adjust themselves being married, having children, seeing their wives got huge during pregnancy and two months with no sex after their wives gave birth.

Well... this what sister told me when I was young. Men is like kites. To control a flying kite we need to play with thread that holding it. Sometimes we let go, and then we pull them back.

If only we could teach that to girls from very early stage and if only all women could actually understand that and do it. Sure... girls can get married at the very young age. And the next thing we know, there are going to be rules men are not allowed to marry young girls because it is hazardous to them. Men can only marry women that they assume are idiots or they could control. It will no longer be, young girls cannot be married young or below certain age. The men cannot be married. huhuhu!!! One day there might these kind of warning.

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