Self absorbed

Some people they are just so self absorbed or like to see what is more wearable for themselves than look at it as if it is wearable for other people as well. That is human nature but I do not think that is the way it is just because naturally human are like that.

Few things has been happening to me and my family lately. In the incidents and things that are happening make me realized how some people could say things that base on what they believe than putting themselves in the other person's shoes.

My blog on me being pregnant has made me received a lot of emails that condemning me as a mother. They keep on telling me that I should be thankful that I got pregnant while so many others out there do not have that same opportunity. Who said that I don't. I am thankful, very-very thankful. If I did not go through this craziness during pregnancy and after pregnancy, I would volunteer myself to be a surrogate mother to my brother and sister-in-law.

Anyway from that same blog, I also got a lot of emails from mothers that went through what I went through but had no guts saying it out loud because of the judgmental attitude and so self absorbed people would do or say to them. Because of that blog, I have formed a group of women who went through the emotional turmoil during pregnancy and after pregnancy and had no support at all after trying telling people around them that it was sucks terribly.

So peeps... stop judging and start listening. In whatever is happening around you and your family. Stop thinking what your actions and that person would do what your actions would be, instead look closely and see how the hurtfulness in their eyes.

I am thankful that my husband finally saw the result of my emotional turmoil during pregnancy and after pregnancy. We have promised each other to handle what is in front of us that is sooo need our attention. Thank you Allah.

33 today...!!!

I am 33 today... What have I done in my life? Nothing much.

I am not big shot in big company that manage thousands of people. Be good and sometimes pretend to be somebody else for the sake of the company. Dress up every morning to go to work and put on a happy face or boss face or something. There's always deadline and someone's throat you want to strangle or someone else try to strangle yours. I am a housewife that, I get up every morning, try to wake my husband and my children up for work and school. Get their breakfast ready and get them ready. Once they are gone to work or school, I am so free to do whatever I want.

In the evening, I am the driver for my kids. For Islamic classes to ballet classes. Tiring.... then cooking time. Wow!! Sound so simple but in actual fact is, it is so tiring.

Anyway... I realized that I am happier now, than before. When I was a working mother, I always got frustrated in so many things. I had to deal with so many kind of people. It is not that I do not care about them, but, they are still just people that come and go in my life, my family is a lot more than that. My guess is, that is why I am much happier now.

Separate room for married couple.

I just don't understand, why is it most of married couple do not sleep in the same room after an argument. How do they solve the problem if they are not in the same room? I was told the same thing when I just got married. I have never seen my parents sleep separately so, I ignored the whole idea. I told my husband right away after I got the suggestion of not sleeping in the same room after a fight or argument that is not going to happen as long as he is married to me. He agreed.

Make up sex is the best. You may not resolve the problem but the sex would still be fantastic. That will save your marriage. Try it if you do not believe me. so, still sleep in the same room no matter what.

Growing up in 1Malaysia

I don't know about you, but I grew up in 1Malaysia way of life.

When I was in school, my classmates are Malays, Chinese and Indians. Those days, it was really fun. We helped each other in school work and activities. That is not all, we talk to each other not only politely and normally but impolitely. Yup... we were soooo.... rude to each other but no hard feeling. Seriously.... Let me give you an example...

I was good in Math and English and but horrible in Geography and moderate in all other subjects. When I need help in Geography, there was this one Chinese girl that always willing to help. She was also good at it. So, lets say, that after helping me out about 10 minutes but I still couldn't get it, of course I will surely 'kena'. She would say "Something simple like this also don't know meh? Your brain lag of a very important food la, that's why you cannot catch what I am trying to teach you." Of course I would ask, " What do I lag of?" and she would say "Babi! (Pig)". I might kick her rear or something but that is all. I do not get upset with her because I know, she meant nothing.

Another example would be if a Chinese girl came to me asking for my help for English subject, I would help in any way that I could. But if let say after a while, she could noy get what I was trying to explain, I would say this " You sure eat pig la last night, that is why you are so slow today." My friend would say, "cannot resist la... so nice. You should try also." And I would say, "don't want la. Nanti surely I become slow slow like you" Of course I got a slap on my shoulder or she would pretend to stab me or something.. but that was it. No hard feeling.

Where has all this harmonious living gone to? I do realized though, when I got married to a KL guy, the surroundings was really all about being Malay or Chinese and Indians. I have heard a Malay woman said that she doesn't want to do open house during Hari Raya because her Chinese friends ate a lot. " They really balun, no shame". I thought the whole idea of open house is have friends and relatives to come over to your place and eat whatever that you laid on the table. Why do they need to feel a shame by eating a lot? I just don't get it. To me, I would be a shame if my guests did not eat during my open house. Doesn't really matter if you are a Malay, chinese and Indian and of course my best friend is a Melanau.

Those were the days that kids actually grow up in 1Malaysia. Now??? Not so much.