What can i say, yes, they look as though that they like any normal person. When the actual fact is. They are not.
People love to assume that ADHD person is over reacting. When they cant control the reaction.
People love to assume when the facts are clear. They are not like any other human.
Dont talk about religion, dont talk about God, dont talk about being a good person. Because they are not normal.
Get that in your head. They are not the same as you and me.
Enough is enough. I am exhausted to even just to smile, nod and let go.
Do I understand why? Nope
Do I know the reason of the meltdown? Nope
Should I even ask? Nope
Then, what should I do?
Wait and be there patiently and keep my mouth shut. In short, don't even try to sweet talk and rationalise anything of her condition and situation.
Feed her. When it is time to eat. Still, don't say a word. Just feed her if I have to and or wait if she can eat on her own. Simple food, make anything complicated. Done eating let her on her own and juts check on her time to time. Oh! Don't forget to kiss and hug her time to time.
If she has medicine make sure she takes her medicine. and make sure we hide them well. As they tend to overdose as that is the only way they know that whatever in their head will stop or just becomes better and clearer. or maybe anything else. I don't know. but yes... just be there.
I am no expert but this is so far helps with my daughter's meltdown. She is 17 the day after tomorrow. But she is still my baby girl.
One thing that what my mum taught us right is, is about loving and taking care of our children.
Thats why, i just cant accept when someone told me there are other people more important than my children. I should not be with my children. And when they cant make me leave my children, they try to make me believe that i was a crazy and horrible mother. Crazy in the sense that as though I am crazy and teach my children wrong.
Please do not under estimate own children especially with the vast knowledge that they can get at their finger tips. And the way they think and dont even think they can be easily persuaded. Nope... Not kids nowadays...
So.. the one that said I was the one who put ideas into my kids head. Helloooo... I am that awesome that I can teach one of them to be ADHD?
Kids giving and telling whats in their mind. Just because it does not suit your mind.. that does not mean it is wrong and make them a bad person.
I still on my children's side. Because they have only one mother,
Finding out my daughter is ADHD, was huge to me. Here mood swing, her attitude, her track of mind. all make sense when she was diagnose as a person with ADHD.
She was brought up like any normal child. At least that's how i believe any kids suppose to. I am not a perfect parent. But I do try my best. I do very much love all my children.
Knowing the reasons of her actions as she was growing up. her extra sensitiveness it finally make sense. And after learning and knowing that fact, i did all kinds of research to rope the brother and sister in and get them into the same boat.
It is not about understanding her. It is about being with her and continue to love her even how screw up she makes us feel and she herself feels most of the time. Be with her and don't even bother trying to figure out what the hell is in her mind. or heart or brain or whatever part of her body that she is using to think and feel at the moment.
Now, here I am with my three children. One of them is ADHD. The four us doing our best. The learning and discovering. That is on going... We pray hard... very very hard, the love that we have for each other. Just the four us and it is fine.
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